by Kelly | Jul 8, 2008 | change
As my business continues to develop, every day I learn new things and try to keep my head above the
constant flow of change. I focus on my intention which is to share my passion with people and so I am sending this special message inviting you to join my ezine.
The “Embrace Change” ezine will be full of info, tips and techniques – not to mention special deals on services, products and bonus information on how to create a life you love! So sign up now!
I sincerely look forward to connecting with you!
Kelly
by Kelly | Jul 2, 2008 | change
Are you tired of dealing with the same issues over and over again in your life? The manager that continues to pass you over for a job promotion. The neighbour that speaks down to you and treats you like a child. The guilt you feel when you say no to other people.
Do you decide to make changes in your life but something always interferes with actualizing your goals? Every January, you proclaim to the world that this year you are going to lose the weight, maintain a healthy diet and sign up for a new course. But something always comes up and you end up making the same proclamations the following year.
Do you complain a lot? Do your friends already know what you are going to complain about before you even say it? Do you find that people aren´t listening or taking what you say seriously anymore? Are you ready to stop? Are you ready to grow personally and explore a new way to approach your life?
Contact me today and redeem a free 30 minute consultation and goal setting worksheet to get the change process started. Soon you will be on your way to overcoming these problems by developing new patterns and taking steps in creating a life you love!
by Kelly | Jun 27, 2008 | Uncategorized
“Anything or anyone that does not bring you alive is too small for you.”
—David Whyte
by Kelly | Jun 23, 2008 | dreams, goals
What can you do today that will move you closer to
actualizing your dreams?
Focus on one dream, visualize yourself having that dream as your reality right now. Complete one action by the end of the day that will move you forward in creating that dream. For example:
- If you dream about going back to school then by the end of today contact the admissions representative at the desired school and for the specific program.
- If you dream about being a better public speaker then contact Toastmasters or a similar organization and go to a meeting.
- If you dream about losing weight then order a non fat latte instead of a full fat one, do a little more exercise today and write a list and examine all that you eat and how long you exercise in one day.
- If you dream about being a better listener then focus today on asking people more questions and practice listening to their answers.
Dreams become reality one action at a time.
by Kelly | Jun 19, 2008 | Uncategorized
When you are going through a big change in your life, it is very easy to get caught up in your own drama. Anyone know what I mean? I admit that I have fallen deep into my own drama a few times before 🙂 so I am speaking from my own experience when I write this entry.
I know what it feels like to reach out to someone in a moment of desperation and not really get the response you need. It hurts.
When you feel let down by someone, disappointed that they weren´t there for you the way that you needed them to be, you might think that the relationship is superficial or fragile. What we may not consider is that they too may be going through something quite significant in their lives, deep in their own drama and aren´t really hearing you. Or, they may not know how to react to your crisis. Unless they are a trained counsellor it is likely, that your friend that answer your pleads in the middle of the night might not know how to respond to your panicked state.
Evaluate your behaviour, what do you really need from your friend? When you have identified what you need from them, tell them. For example, if you need to talk and them to listen, tell them and say, ¨Hey Friend, I am so stressed out and need to vent, can I use your ear? You don´t have to do a thing, just listen. Thank you!¨ They will likely be grateful and very willing to help you. In order to maintain a friendship when each of you wants or needs something more out of the relationship, create some boundaries and clearly communicate together around shared expectations and needs.
Also, consider whether you are taking more than you are giving from the relationship, instead of saying, ¨What have you done for me lately?¨ ask yourself, ¨What have I given lately?¨ And,¨What can I give today?¨ We all know that giving feels better than receiving. When you approach communication in this manner you will eventually emerge from your drama and get more goodness from the people around you. Try it and let me know…
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by Kelly | Jun 12, 2008 | Uncategorized
For those who have read my blog or been on my website, you know that I have been living in Santo Domingo, Dominican Republic for nearly a year now. It has been a wild ride, full of excitement!!! Normally I would write from my apartment but since my neighbourhood has been without water and power for nearly 24 hours, I am writing from an internet cafe. Whenever this happens I am abruptly reminded that I am living in a developing country.
As I pour the cold water over me using a bucket and a measuring cup, I remember the things we take for granted at home in Canada, like clean water that flows regularly from our taps. And when I get irritated because of the heat and dirt, I am also reminded of the fact that many people here do not ever have water or power – ever!
As I left my apartment this morning I met many familiar eyes and received unusually more greetings on the street. I noticed that all of us looked a little dirtier than yesterday and then realized that these “interruptions in basic services” bonded this small neighbourhood. And while I am still not happy about bathing from a bucket, I am thankful to be more apart of this community.
by Kelly | Jun 10, 2008 | Uncategorized
by Kelly | Jun 4, 2008 | change
I love cake! I especially love vanilla cake with loads of buttercream icing! I also love ice cream cake made with butterscotch ice cream!! I am sure I can come up with other cakes that I love and share the details but that is not the point of this entry – Focus Kelly!
Mostly everyone is familiar with the expression, “We want our cake and to eat it too.” But have you ever heard of this expression? “You want to eat your cake before it is even cooked and out of the oven?” I have never heard of that one before but yesterday it made me laugh and laugh and laugh… The person who delivered this fantastic expression was referring to my impatience, something I try really hard to improve and have obviously developed a sense of humour about.
When we are dealing with change or in a difficult transition we say things like, “Oh, it is never going to happen” or “when is this going to end?” We want whatever we are going through to move faster or change and be different but no matter how we will it, time drags on. Eventually when we throw our hands up, waving a white flag surrendering, “I give up!” do things ever shift. So that is where I am today, waving a white flag and waiting for a shift and the cake buzzer to tell me that my cake is ready to eat!
If you can identify and are ready and waiting to eat your cake, feel free to post your experiences here…
