Welcome!

We are glad you are here!

My name is Kelly, but in the book Chloe and the Butterflies, my name is Katie.

Here, I will share photos of our family and life with Chloe. She was a sweet and smart dog who loved playing and running!

I hope you enjoy reading more about Chloe and the butterflies that often flew around her throughout her life.

Kelly 

Building Connection

By sharing stories about Chloe, I hope you and the people in your life can laugh; you may even cry, but you feel connected and closer in the process.

We all share these emotions because we love and care for each other. Just know you are perfect just the way you are. Your feelings are valid; when you share them, you often feel lighter because you don’t have to carry them alone.

Here is what three of our first readers said (each are trained teachers):

“Chloe and the Butterflies is such a sweet story! Kelly’s heart and passion for helping others really shines through the pages and concepts in this book. The chapters are engaging and kept my children’s attention, eager to find out what would happen next.
The discussion questions at the back of the book allow parents to talk with their children about challenging times and life changes. It’s beautiful to see what things resonated with them and to listen to their perspective about how it relates to their life.
A great book to connect with your kids and to create space for conversations about hard things.”
J. Ruston

“Chloe and the Butterflies is a touching story about love and sentiment. It provides a gentle way for parents/caregivers to start the conversation about loss and grief while emphasizing that you can move on with your life and keep the memory of someone or something you lost as an important part of you.
Young readers will be able to find their own meaning about a sensitive and important topic while enjoying a fun and uplifting story.”
R. D.

“Chloe and the Butterflies” is a touching children’s book that masterfully explores life’s highs and lows through the eyes of Katie, her dog Chloe and their changing family. The story revolves around Chloe, who finds solace and companionship in her friendship with beautiful butterflies during moments of sadness and joy. In this heartwarming tale, this unique narrative adds an enchanting element to the story, making it delightful.
The book delicately addresses sensitive topics children often face in life such as divorce, moving homes, illness, and death, offering valuable life lessons in a way that is accessible and relatable for children. Children learn the powerful lesson that love connects us “no matter what”.
“Chloe and the Butterflies” is not just a children’s book; it’s a gentle guide that provides proven tools for emotional regulation and management. The enchanting presence of talking butterflies adds a whimsical touch to the narrative, making it an unforgettable and impactful read for young minds.”
Lynn McLaughlin

Meet Chloe & Our Family

Suggestions for Using the Discussion Questions provided in the book:

As a Caregiver, it can be challenging to find the “right” words to support a child who is emotional about a significant change. Even as adults, we can be afraid to say the wrong thing that may make things worse somehow.

Loss of all kinds, not only loss of life, can include loss of friendships, moving to a new school, family separation and divorce, illness, and changes in physical abilities can be disruptive. 

At the conclusion of the story, we included eight questions to help you open up the conversation with your child about topics that may feel uncomfortable. Here are a few tips to help you engage meaningfully: 

1) Answer the questions yourself first before engaging with your child. When you are able to reflect on your own thoughts, feelings and beliefs about loss, you will be able to share from a thoughtful space. Form a support team for yourself if you find you might need additional resources during times of change and transition.

Modelling how to carry grief or embrace change will provide valuable information to the child watching you.

2) Learn how to listen actively and validate the child’s emotions. You are not expected to have all of the answers to the mysteries of life and death. It is okay to say you don’t know how the world works.

Phrases provided by Imago therapy, include: “I hear you saying this…, did I understand that correctly? Is there more about that?” and finally, “I can understand how that would make you feel that way. Would you like a hug?” Being grounded and present while sitting quietly beside them is effective at forming connections. Silence is okay.

3) Be consistent. When things are changing in a child’s life, they rely on routine to provide a sense of security and stability.

Having a regular schedule as much as possible will allow them to feel safe, and if things do change, provide them with notice beforehand so they can prepare themselves.

On the Friday before Chloe died, I took her to the park. I carried her for most of the walk because her legs were weak. I sat down in the grass, and she walked slowly around the area under the canopy of trees.

I cried very deeply because I was very sad and took some pictures to help me remember that moment.

I am glad I have the pictures because I can remember exactly how I felt. I can feel tremendous grief and love for Chloe simultaneously, which reminds me of the specialness of our connection.

When I see butterflies, I am reminded of the magic of life. It can be hard to explain in words, but when we are quiet, we can feel it speaking to us in our hearts. The feeling says, “Keep trying,” “Don’t give up,” “Keep believing,” and “Keep opening your heart and loving,” again and again.

I always feel connected to Chloe that way, no matter if we aren’t physically together.

Our love is alive and always around us. We simply have to get quiet and look for evidence of it and let it comfort and inspire us.

Keep Learning as a Family 

Dougy Center

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Kids Grief

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About the Book

Join Chloe, Katie, and their growing family on a heartwarming adventure full of love, loss, and everything in between. Chloe’s tale, written especially for children, celebrates the life of Katie’s beloved dog. The true and touching story is a gentle guide, helping young minds face change, transition, and loss that are part of everyone’s journey.

Children will discover that love connects us, empowering them to face life’s challenges with hope and reassurance. Share in the joy of this unforgettable tale and explore topics with your child that are often difficult to discuss but key to building hope and resilience.