7 Steps to Accept Change & Live Your Best Life

7 Steps to Accept Change & Live Your Best Life

“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself” – Jalaluddin Mevlana Rumi

Change is inevitable. We can’t escape it, but we often resist it. Think about all the changes that have occurred in your life, both the good and the bad. Did you accept them willingly? Or did you fight them? 

How do we define change? 

To change is “to make or become different” (Cambridge Dictionary). There are changes all around us, all the time. For instance, the weather, the social climate, and the people. The changes in people are what we notice most, because our days are filled with interactions, both good and bad.

Change looks different for everyone because everyone is unique! There is no one else exactly like you, or exactly like me, even if we meet people who are shockingly similar. 

Change plays a large role in our lives, and yet, most times we don’t initially know how to react or understand. Take a moment and contemplate the last time you underwent a major change in your life. What was your initial reaction? How did you cope with it? What was the outcome? 

How do we feel about change & why do we feel that way?

We are afraid. Everyone has a comfort zone, and often this is the place we go to be completely free. It’s the place where we know exactly what to expect, and the place where we know it’s safe to be whatever version of ourselves we need at that moment. 

If you’re a semi-permanent or permanent resident in your comfort zone, change is likely going to be a scary concept! You might think thinks like: What if I step out of the comfort zone and get hurt? What if I step out and fail at something meaningful to me? As humans, we innately question the unknown, so it makes sense that we are sometimes wary of unknown situations.

We are excited? Everyone has dreams, even if they seem impossible to reach. Do you want to travel the world? To create a comfortable and stable life with a loving partner where you’re not always concerned about money? Or, to see your name on a publication? 

All of these ideas seem so distant if you’re alone in your comfort zone. But, your dreams do excite you, even if it’s the thrill of knowing that it’s something wild! The only way to get to these amazing dreams is to change our current lifestyle. We have to work toward those dreams somehow, right? They’re not just going to walk up to our front door and knock. 

We assume change is hard. We learn how to grow and adapt to change when we are children, and when we are young, things almost always seem more dramatic than they actually are. Learning to grow and change becomes very dramatic because every time we get to a comfort zone, things change! 

When we become adults, we have the mentality that change is hard. We get so ingrained into our daily routines of going to work, coming home, eating dinner, taking care of pets/spouses/children/parents/etc. that we automatically assume any changes that disrupt the status quo we’ve worked so hard to achieve will be another mountain to climb. Small things were hard to change when we learned how to do it, so why would they be different now? 

We’ve gotten burned by changes before. We’ve all tried new things and failed. It’s part of being human, right? Like change, it’s inevitable that we will fail at some things during our lives; however, if you’ve tried to make a major change in your life and fallen flat, that’s definitely going to tamp your excitement about trying again.

Perhaps you tried to quit smoking and you were doing very well. You had cut yourself down to 1-2 cigarettes a day when you started at a pack and a half! And then a life crisis tumbled into your lap, leaving you miserable, stressed, and back to your old habits. This experience will certainly make it harder to succeed at quitting once and for all because you remember what it felt like to spiral back to where you started, even if it was because of something outside of your control. 

We question whether it’s worthwhile. We all have things we know we should change, but for whatever reason, don’t. We know we could work on it little by little, but immediately question if it’s worth it. 

We ask/tell ourselves things like: 

Does eating an extra serving of vegetables every day really justify having to spend longer cooking dinner after a long day? 

Will taking a 15-minute walk with my dog really be that beneficial when I have work to do on the house?

I know I should ask my partner/spouse/significant other about their day, but what if it was bad? I don’t have time to listen to all their complaints because we have to get x, y, z done before the in-laws come this weekend. 

We know these small changes and details will benefit our lives, but how much will it actually do to implement them? Change takes a prolonged effort, and if we don’t perceive the worthiness of that effort, we hesitate to or reject committing to it.

We question whether we can do it. It is a great thing to have dreams, and everyone has them; however, because of our view from the comfort zone, they often seem out of reach for us. We have all had a moment, and maybe many, that caused us to think “Maybe this just isn’t for me.”  

We may ask things like “How am I supposed to travel when I can barely pay the rent or mortgage payment?” or “How am I supposed to be able to picture having a family when I am single and have had a string of lousy dates?”  

Thinking back to the major changes in your life, which of these emotions have you felt? Have you had any of these thoughts when you encountered change?

“All things are difficult before they are easy” – Thomas Fuller

We’ve identified the major emotions and the reasons we are resistant to change. But there’s change everywhere! What areas do we struggle the most with change? 

Relationships The people we love, and who love us.

Career The job we do to contribute our talents to the world. 

Health & Wellness The overall health of our body, mind, & spirit. The wellness of ourselves as a whole person. 

“If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we aren’t really living” – Gail Sheehy

What’s so different about these areas than the rest? Why are these areas hard to change?

These areas are personal. When we are in relationships with others, we make ourselves vulnerable. As friendships and romance develops, we allow the other person to see parts of us that aren’t immediately obvious to the rest of the world. This includes our health and wellness, as well as how we treat ourselves when we think no one is looking.

Our careers are what we are giving to the world. Many of us want to “make a difference” in the world but struggle in jobs we may or may not be passionate about. This is one role we are playing that the rest of the world sees us doing. 

We don’t want to risk relationships with those we love and who love us. Have you ever held back a biting comment when you’re arguing because you didn’t want to hurt the person on the other end of the conversation? We often curtail our speech and actions around people we care about because we don’t want to risk losing the relationship. Adding changes to an already rocky relationship could be the final blow and end it, so we avoid it to hang on to those bonds we have built. 

We make excuses and normalize them. Have you ever said “Oh, I’ll do that on Monday? This will be my last weekend…” or made a New Year’s resolution that’s promptly forgotten after the first of the new year? We use excuses to put off change, and those ideas gradually get built into our lives so much so that the change never actually occurs. 

We feel trapped and don’t know how to get out. Remember your comfort zone? That place where you gaze longingly out at your dreams? This feels like a safe place to take refuge, but if we never leave, it becomes a trap. When we’ve been in the comfort zone for so long, we forget how to leave and take those risks that will make good changes in our life. We look around and realize we’re trapped there and we’re not sure what to do to get out. 

“Any change, even for the better, is always accompanied by discomforts” – Arnold Bennett

We resist change, we try to avoid it, and sometimes downright run from it. The truth is, though, that change is part of life. No matter what you do, you will grow older, your health will change, your relationships will change, and your career will change. 

Change is both good and necessary. Here’s why:

Change is healthy & natural. You wouldn’t want to be in a permanent state of sickness, would you? You want that state you’re in to change so you can be healthy again. We all have some things in our life that aren’t the best that act like a sickness.

Maybe it’s a stressful job or a broken relationship. We need these things to change so we can live without that constant weight on our shoulders. In the same vein, we don’t choose to age, it just happens. Change is a natural part of the human experience and it helps to keep us well.

Change is inevitable & unavoidable. We know change is part of life, right? We can’t run from it forever, so we should accept it and embrace it! 

Change encourages growth. We have all experienced that painful moment of learning something the hard way. Maybe your mother told you repeatedly not to touch the hot pan of brownies, but in your childish mind, you couldn’t resist. You touched it, got burned, and immediately began to cry. After that moment, you knew not to touch the hot pan again.

Change isn’t always painful, but sometimes we learn things best and/or quickest by going against our better judgement. These actions are signs of growth! You change your behavior and learn to do or not do things, and as a result you are little better than you were before. 

“In any given moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or step back into safety” – Abraham Maslow

You might, at this point, be saying “That’s me! I did (or still do) that!” You might also be saying “What can I do about it, though?”

I am a firm believer that everyone has a gift to give to the world. Your dream is possible! In my book, Follow Your Heart to Discover Your Life Purpose, I define a 7-step program that allows you to do the hard work of making changes in your life in a safe space. Making changes to clarify what you want in life and how to get there is difficult, but worth it! We should be using our gifts and living our life purpose to help ourselves and the world, not peering at it sadly from our comfort zone. 

Here are 7 concrete steps you can take to begin accepting change & taking action to move toward your life purpose. These steps will help you work toward discovering your life purpose and creating more authenticity in your life. 

To preface these steps, I recommend implementing a few essential practices into your daily life that will help you work through changes and spiritually connect to God, Divinity, and the Universe. 

These practices include: writing daily, yoga & meditation, walking in nature, and having accountability with someone. These practices will be essential as you work through the steps below. To begin the journey, find a pen & a journal to keep close.

Step #1

Identify what you want to change. Before you make any changes, you must know what you want to change! In your journal, take some time to free write your ideas about each of these categories: Relationships, Career, and Health & Wellness. Remember, those are the hardest to change. Write down anything you feel is related to each area in your own life. Take a few minutes to breathe and listen to your mind, and then examine your beliefs about your own life. Consider your beliefs about success and failure. Are you ready to commit to change? When you are ready, consciously make the decision.

Step #2

Create a picture of your life purpose. It’s great that you’ve committed to change! The next goal is to get clear on the details. To do this, you will create a vision board. You will need glue & scissors, as well as a Bristol board to create your vision board. Using a variety of magazines (get a creative variety!), find images of anything you want in your ideal life. It could be a place or career, or it could be something that represents a feeling you want to create in your life. When you have clipped everything you want, paste the images to your board. Make sure to position your vision board where you can see it every day.

Step #3

Begin to live your life purpose. You have determined what you want to change and have a vision for where you want to be. Now it’s time to start the journey to get there. To begin striving toward those dreams on your vision board, create a sacred space in your home. Somewhere you can go where you can have quiet contemplation time. Fill your space with uplifting reminders you can use to lift yourself up when you get discouraged. Throughout the day, ask yourself, “Are my choices moving me closer or further away from what I want?” Above all, let your heart guide you. You know best what you need, and what makes you happy. Let this guide you on your journey. 

Step #4

Protect your ideal picture. You’re making great progress! You should be proud! You have started to make those changes to get out of your comfort zone and closer to your ideal life! As with all change, you will encounter some resistance. Some people, even loved ones, might not understand or support what you are doing. That is okay. Before you begin to have conversations, prepare yourself for the questions they might ask. Do not feel obligated to take unsolicited advice! Affirm your ideal picture by telling yourself “I am worth it, and I deserve to have what I want.” Do not let others discourage you from pursuing your ideal picture. After all, it’s not about them, it’s about you!

Step #5

Celebrate the moment. You’re well on your way to living your life purpose and you’ve almost become a master of accepting change! Look at you go! It’s time to celebrate. Consider having a small get together with friends and family and make a short speech honoring the courage you’ve shown by implementing these changes. Have a glass of wine, or a piece of cake. You earned it! But don’t overindulge. After all, you worked very hard, and overindulging might create regret in the morning, which is certainly not the goal of your celebration. 

Step #6

Realign with your life purpose! You’ve probably noticed that you are getting attention. People are noticing your changes, and they are good! You probably also notice the changes in yourself! You’re a rock star! Take a few moments and reflect on how far you’ve come since you started this journey. As you look at where you are, doubt might creep in. When this happens, take a few mindful moments and observe what your body is actually doing instead of relying on old coping mechanisms like compulsive shopping or gambling. Remember: the situation is not permanent. As someone wise once said, this too shall pass.

Step #7

Continue to evolve! Congratulations! You’ve made it! Way to go! You’re living your life purpose, and if it isn’t quite what you pictured, remember that what we want and what we need are not always quite the same. Continue adding to and creating new vision boards. Think long term and work backward to create an action plan. Think about 10 years, 5 years, 3 years, and 1 year from now. Where do you want to be? What are the steps you can take today, this week, this month to work on getting there? 

“Courage is the power to let go of the familiar” – Raymond Lindquist

These are steps I’ve taken in my own life and have worked with clients to implement in their lives. I love helping others discover and run toward their life purpose! These changes can make such a big impact in your life, if you are courageous enough to take the steps. 

Stop wanting something different & shift your path for the better. When we are trapped in our comfort zone, we aren’t living life to the fullest. These changes will help you make your big dreams come true! You won’t have to daydream about how much better life could be, because it will be your reality. Rather than stay on the path through your comfort zone, make the decision to choose the more fulfilling path.

Take your confidence & use it as a strength. Living your truth and your purpose is empowering! When you are sure of yourself and your path in life, you are confident and that is a strength that knows no bounds. Your decision to make your life better, on your terms, is powerful!

Achieve your goals & life purpose. When we realize that our dreams have become reality, or will in short order, we have shifted our path from idle wandering to achieving our goals. We aren’t in a constant state of wanting something different, so we can focus specifically on how to get to our goals and live our life purpose. 

I wish you the best on your journey! I truly hope that you can make change in your life and live your unique life purpose. 

If you would like to read further, consider purchasing my book, Follow Your Heart to Discover Your Life Purpose. I would love to sign a copy for you! Click here for more details on how I can help you.


If you need assistance or guidance on how to begin your journey, I also offer one-on-one coaching services at Embrace Your Life coaching. If I can be of any help to you, I would love to schedule a complimentary session to discuss your goals. 

“Change is inevitable. Growth is optional” – John Maxwell

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Mental Health & Processing Grief

Mental Health & Processing Grief

Good Morning! I have to be honest, I have been very moved by the loss of Kate Spade.
What about you?

She had the business success people dream of.

She created so much in her life for the world to celebrate, full of colour and influence and playfulness.
Her brand.

All while there was so much more going on inside.

It makes me think of how often we answer the question,

“How are you?” with “I’m fine.”

— when you really aren’t fine.

If you don’t have a broken bone or an illness that someone can see, it is expected you are “fine and will get over it, can’t be that bad.”

What if you are feeling opposite to what you are trying to create?

Trapped by your brand, by the vision you think you need to project… the thinking that you have to be something you aren’t.

We are complex beings!

We change. We feel. We are human.

Without being over-simplistic, a good practice is –

If you catch yourself saying I am fine when you really aren’t,
CHALLENGE yourself to expand your answer and be vulnerable telling the person exactly how you are feeling.

Authentic connection is proven to combat depression.

With lots of love, sincerely!!
Kelly  xo

The Love Yourself podcast Interview on Transformation

The Love Yourself podcast Interview on Transformation

Listen to this interview with Jessica May Tang, a fellow Coach!

Free yourself from limitations and truly embrace your life!!

Here are the links for sharing:

Podcast episode: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/ly-27-let-go-past-embrace-your-life-kelly-maclellan/id1281748940?i=1000411083821&mt=2

Shownotes: jessicamaytang.com/shownotes/27

YouTube: https://youtu.be/2xyA48oHfbE



I love writing on Sunday mornings. It is my sacred time. So here I am, deep in thought and because next week is Mother’s Day, my mom is on my mind.

While I was growing up, my mom committed herself to be involved in all of our activities. Often while we chilled in the evenings after dinner (one that she cooked) watching Wheel of Fortune, she left to go to the school association meetings or other fundraising volunteer activities that she believed in.

She drove us to all of our appointments, our after school jobs attended field trips, helped with homework and cooked, cleaned, scheduled etc…

She knew my friends and my teachers and tried her best to give me everything she knew how and more!

Often she sacrificed her joy for us.

She used to stay up late to clean and organize often till midnight, and then get up early and do it again.

She helped me pay for my education and set me up for my life when I left home for school at 18.
She wanted me to be independent. And I was. I am.

Only as an adult, can I see my mom’s contributions in my life for ALL that they are.

Sure she was sometimes stressed out and got upset and I remember being confused wondering what I did wrong.

But now I understand.

She gave me and my sister ALL of herself. And now as I live close to her again, I have the gift to see her play and enjoy her life fully.

She is deeply spiritual and through her journey, she taught me about meditation, angelic presence, divinity and energy therapies. She is my mom for a reason because I help people through what she inspired in me.
She recently got a record player and pulled out her old records igniting a crazy dance party; we twirled and laughed.

There was a moment when she danced with my daughter and the light came into the room surrounding them with brilliance. Time stopped. It was beautiful.

Day to day, we give (and give) but in those moments of the purest joy, we receive and our soul glows.
I wish you receive the purest of joy this week and that your soul glows! Whether your mom is with you physically or in spirit, know she is near.

Enjoy! With love, Kelly

5 Strategies to Identify Your Niche

5 Strategies to Identify Your Niche

YOU ARE INVITED! to our APRIL Workshop! Join us if…

Professionally, if you want to learn the best way to share your passion and how identifying your niche will grow your business!


Personally, if you want to stop feeling burned out and instead be the best coach, business owner you can be!

Meet YOUR Hosts:

My name is Kelly MacLellan. Tara Brown and I have been friends for almost 30 years! We have 15 years of combined business experience. And, we have been working together for 8 years!

Together we provide our small business clients with coaching, mindset and design and technology solutions.

We want to share our personal journey with you because we believe our paths are crossing for a reason.

We plan to use this time together to inspire you to go for your dreams in a BIG way!

Click HERE to register! & Grab the FREE download!

Enjoy! Kelly & Tara

5 Strategies to Identify Your Niche

Avoid Making this Mistake!

Today I wanted to talk to you about Competition!

Let me ask you –When you see someone online that is doing really well in their business. They are travelling, their photos are exotic and or has more likes or fans than you?

Do you Feel Jealous?

What happens in your body? This is very real! So pay attention 😊

You might be saying to yourself – “I show up every day! And try and try.. Why isn’t my business growing?”

Today I am going to give you 3 reasons to stop comparing yourself to others!

1) You have NO idea what that person did to get to the spot they are in.
I focus on this because we are making judgements without the information. Some people work day and night for a decade to get where they are at. They hire the best coaches, technical team, etc etc to help them get there. And that is awesome!! But if you just started and don’t have the funds to access those resources, don’t compare yourself!

2) You have NO idea what happens in the person’s life when the camera is off.
We all project our best online – there is research that supports this. So take a closer look – we are all human! Don’t elevate others unrealistically!

3) You have NO idea that they are delivering what they are promising.
Remember we are constantly being marketed to. There are some people who are REALLY good at marketing! It can be hard based on the surface to see just how good they are at what they are selling.

So – don’t compare yourself! Just get really good at what you are doing!! And if you are jealous it is because you really really WANT something that they have. So write it down and focus on manifesting it! If they have it, it means that it is possible!

By being judgemental instead of inspired about someone who is truly making a difference and succeeding in business, we are wasting valuable time and energy. Like a rollercoaster of highs when we accomplish something in our own business but then seeing that someone else appears to have done something similar before us.

This is a never-ending cycle!

So Be Your Best Self!

In the spirit of this message, I have organized a series of interviews that will happen over the next month with a few female entrepreneurs who are going to share strategies on leading authentically and living according to their life purpose.

To stay connected with me join my FB group the Authentic Wealthy Solopreneur and download the planning worksheets to help you get focused!

With love, enjoy!!


6 Steps to Attracting & Keeping Repeat Customers

6 Steps to Attracting & Keeping Repeat Customers


If you are looking for more meaningful engagement with your current and new customers – Follow these 6 steps!

Surprise – The Change Begins with You!

Often when we aren’t attracting the results we want, we can spend a lot of time complaining and/or criticizing ourselves and others for the things we are frustrated with or don’t like.

We focus on the numbers that we DON’T have and are FRUSTRATED when are numbers aren’t growing as fast as we want.
When we are feeling down, we procrastinate on the important business growing activities because we are spinning with too many things to do which ends up diminishing our confidence.

Answer this: How often do you complain? Are you delaying anything because you are overwhelmed?

Consider all of the skills and strengths and look for ways to demonstrate your best every day.
Ask yourself these questions:
• What am I bringing to the table here?
• What am I contributing? Do I present solutions?
• What can I do to improve the environment in my business and in my relationships?
• Am I implementing the best time management strategies?
• What do I need to focus on?

Look around and see all of the things that are going right in your business.
Look for the things that you are grateful for and write them all down to remind yourself.
ACTION: Create a Thank You promotion to spread the gratitude with your customers.
Show the people you interact with just how much you appreciate them!

When are you most happy in your work?
What do you want to be doing more of with your time?
Write out a list of ideal duties, projects or partnerships you want to be doing more of – get in touch with what really makes you happy!

Consider delegating tasks or decreasing your offerings.
Maybe it is time to streamline: What opportunities exist for maximizing your time now that you know what lights you up?
Find out what you need in order to get where you want to go!
Talk to people, network, tell them clearly what you do and how you can help them solve their problem!

Become the ideal Problem Solver for your customer – Show them that you are happy, self-aware and focused.
* Be the person they need to solve their problem.
* Work from this space as frequently as possible! AND have a life outside of your business!
* Take a course, volunteer and meet new people!
*Find a mentor, a coach, a time management planner that works and surround yourself with supportive people!

AND remember, you started a business because there is something burning inside of you that wants to be shared! Believe in yourself!  Follow these steps to really get out of you head and focused on providing the best service to your customers!

Enjoy the process!