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My name is Kelly, but in the book Chloe and the Butterflies, my name is Katie.
Here, I will share photos of our family and life with Chloe. She was a sweet and smart dog who loved playing and running! I hope you enjoy reading more about Chloe and the butterflies that often flew around her throughout her life.
By sharing stories about Chloe, I hope you and the people in your life can laugh; you may even cry, but in the process, you feel connected and closer.
We all share these emotions because we love and care for each other. Just know you are perfect just the way you are. Your feelings are valid, and when you share them, you often feel lighter because you don’t have to carry them alone.
Meet Chloe & Our Family
Suggestions for Using the Discussion Questions provided in the book:
As a Caregiver, it can be challenging to find the “right” words to support a child who is emotional about a significant change. Even as adults, we can be afraid to say the wrong thing that may make things worse somehow.
Loss of all kinds, not only loss of life, can include loss of friendships, moving to a new school, family separation and divorce, illness, and changes in physical abilities can be disruptive.
At the conclusion of the story, we included eight questions to help you open up the conversation with your child about topics that may feel uncomfortable. Here are a few tips to help you engage meaningfully:
1) Answer the questions yourself first before engaging with your child. When you are able to reflect on your own thoughts, feelings and beliefs about loss, you will be able to share from a thoughtful space. Form a support team for yourself if you find you might need additional resources during times of change and transition.
Modelling how to carry grief or embrace change will provide valuable information to the child watching you.
2) Learn how to listen actively and validate the child’s emotions. You are not expected to have all of the answers to the mysteries of life and death. It is okay to say you don’t know how the world works.
Phrases provided by Imago therapy, include: “I hear you saying this…, did I understand that correctly? Is there more about that?” and finally, “I can understand how that would make you feel that way. Would you like a hug?” Being grounded and present while sitting quietly beside them is effective at forming connections. Silence is okay.
3) Be consistent. When things are changing in a child’s life, they rely on routine to provide a sense of security and stability.
Having a regular schedule as much as possible will allow them to feel safe, and if things do change, provide them with notice beforehand so they can prepare themselves.
On the Friday before Chloe died, I took her to the park. I carried her for most of the walk because her legs were weak. I sat down in the grass, and she walked slowly around the area under the canopy of trees.
I cried very deeply because I was very sad and took some pictures to help me remember that moment.
I am glad I have the pictures because I can remember exactly how I felt. I can feel tremendous grief and love for Chloe, which reminds me of the specialness of our connection.
When I see butterflies, I am reminded of the magic of life. It can be hard to explain in words, but when we are quiet, we can feel it speaking to us in our hearts. The feeling says, “Keep trying,” “Don’t give up,” “Keep believing,” and “Keep opening your heart and loving,” again and again.
That is how I always feel connected to Chloe, no matter what. Our love is alive.
Keep Learning as a Family
At Dougy Center, we create safe spaces and free resources for children and families who are grieving. Our pioneering peer grief support model, professional training, and world-renowned programs and advocacy bring hope and healing around the world. Find support, resources, and connection before and after a death.
Hummingbird Center for Hope
At the Hummingbird Centre for Hope, we understand these struggles and work to provide young widowed parents with continuing support in all areas of their grief. Our goal is to help ease the burdens these parents carry and to help them find a renewed sense of hope for themselves and their families.
Kids Grief is a free online resource that helps parents support their children when someone in their life is dying or has died. It equips parents with the words and confidence needed to help children grieve life’s losses in healthy ways.
About the Book
Join Chloe, Katie, and their growing family on a heartwarming adventure full of love, loss, and everything in between. Chloe’s tale, written especially for children, celebrates the life of Katie’s beloved dog. The true and touching story is a gentle guide, helping young minds face change, transition, and loss that are part of everyone’s journey.
Children will discover that love connects us, empowering them to face life’s challenges with hope and reassurance. Share in the joy of this unforgettable tale and explore topics with your child that are often difficult to discuss but key to building hope and resilience.
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Thank you for your support!